Breakup and Divorce Counseling

About Breakup & Divorce Counseling

As humans, we are wired to connect. We seek out love no less fervently (and sometimes more so!) than water, food, or air. Inevitably, in our humanness, we “fail” in our search. We get spurned, stood up, or ghosted. We spend a few years together before life sets us on separate paths. For some of us, we find love and believe our search to be over. We pledge ourselves, we imagine we will grow old with our partners, and then, seemingly, they abandon us.

Separating at any stage of relationship brings unique challenges. A series of rejections and false starts can produce intense pain, even drumming up wounds and insecurities from childhood. The demise of longer-term relationships is often complicated by financial and social disentangling.  Both partners can experience a variety of serious symptoms, including  depression, insomnia, feelings of worthlessness, lack of motivation, and impairment at school or work.

My goal as a therapist is to help you use a breakup as a springboard to spiritual development, bringing the best and most precious parts of you to the fore. I can help you define yourself more clearly and gain clarity on what you want out of life.  No matter where you are in your process, I am happy to walk with you on your path to self-recovery.

Benefits of Breakup & Divorce Counseling

  • Provide a safe space to process complex emotions of sadness, relief, anger, and grief
  • Discover practical ways to get emotional and social needs met
  • Understand the biology of detachment in order to practice better self-care
  • Begin rebuilding broken trust systems
  • Gain practical tools for separating with integrity
  • Clarify and recondition values
  • Explore identity in the new context of singlehood
  • Help discerning when and how to date again
  • Recover self-esteem potentially damaged by negative relationship interactions
  • Lessen stress of impending breakup or divorce

Common Reason for Seeking Breakup & Divorce Counseling

Difficulty Managing Intense Emotions

Depression and/or Suicidal Thoughts

Unfortunately, breakups and divorces are established predictors of suicide attempts. The combination of intense emotional pain, loss of social support, uncertainty, financial strain, and stress understandably leads many people to a dark place inside themselves. Romantic notions of “not being able to live without you” might further inflame this already challenging transition. No one should have to navigate this time alone.

As a culture, I believe our relationship with relationships is broken, and our relationship with breakups even more so. You deserve a soft place to land in the midst of your divorce or breakup, a kind of “heart hospital” (and not the kind that does stents!) If you’re struggling with intense sadness, grief, despair, depression, and even suicidal thoughts, I am here to support you on your road to acceptance and peace.

Note: If you are actively suicidal, please call 911 or proceed to the nearest emergency room.

Social Isolation

Ruminations about Ex

Questions about Sex and Sexuality

Processing Affairs and Other Betrayals

Identity and Self-Esteem Recovery

Managing Transition and Disentangling

Co-parenting Through Separation

Recommended Resources

  • An Open Letter to the Broken-Hearted, Hayden Lindsey
  • Uncoupling: Turning Points in Intimate Relationships, Diane Vaughan
  • No Breakup Can Break You: The Definitive Recovery Guide for Men, Nick Dawson
  • Divorce After 50: Your Guide to the Unique Legal and Financial Challenges, Janice Green
  • When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times, Pema Chodron
  • Conscious Uncoupling: 5 Steps to Living Happily Ever After, Katherine Woodward Thomas
  • Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay: A Step-by-Step Guide to Help You Decide Whether to Stay In or Get Out of Your Relationship, Mira Kirschenbaum
  • The Journey from Abandonment to Healing: Surviving Through and Recovering from the Five Stages That Accompany the Loss of Love, Susan Anderson

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